I broke down when I heard about this.
I was not close to Paul, other than some brief interactions on the forums here and there, and little comments on videos we exchanged. But regardless of how well I knew him, this whole thing really hit me hard, because I was at that place he found himself in. About two years ago, I was very close to taking my life, things had just gotten to a breaking point and I felt I had no options left. Its a miracle and blessing I am still alive today, but it really makes me sad to think that someone else was going through this same thing, but didn’t reach out to anyone to express these feelings and talk about what was going on inside, cause ultimately, that is what saved me.
I dont want to sound like a broken record or replay of a tape of what others said but please, please, please, if any of you find yourself in this same state, please talk to someone, anyone, there are people out there who will help. Paul’s situation, unfortunately, he didn’t reach out, and honestly oh my gosh I can understand, sometimes you may not feel like reaching out, you feel like people will think less of you and you’ll feel even worse, but please oh my gosh this isn’t true.
I find myself totally broken down, nobodies life should end like that, Paul’s life should not have ended in this way, but whats done is done. As a community, its a call to us that we really need to be supportive of each other, be close, keep each other strong.
Some may remember back in 05 when we lost Ryan Houdini Monson to the same fate, and it sent a shockwave through the community, but it made many of us closer, and more of us reached out to each other in times of need. This is just a terrible reminder that we must continue to do this. Not a reminder we would ever wish of, but a reminder nonetheless.
RIP Paul, I never got to know you, and now I guess I never will. I just wish I could have done something, said something, if I had only known, cause I know oh so terribly too well of what you were going through was like. Im so terribly sorry.
You’ll forever live on in our hearts.
RIP…
Haru