well, we’re probably very few to
- be married
- have some experience about marriage, kids etc…
in general, these “little things” tend to become huge with time. pure “love” doesn’t last as a chemical reaction (usually around 3, 4 years tops), then it’s all about “friendship” (or something close to it, only you get to have sex, if you don’t mess out too much)
lifetime commitment must not be taken lightly
and there’s nothing wrong with having kids at 19yo as long as you have what it takes, but ultimately, if you’re a cheezy dad, your kid will pay for it, not you, your kid.
if your relationship with his mom is messy, the kid will pay, not you, your kid. Better a polite/separate relationship than a everyday fighting relationship
as a parent, 1 thing is important, the kid, in order for the kid to do well, he has to be in a stable environment, and this is where the yoyo comes in, if you really like to play, you probably use it also as a way to release your stress and probably even more unconscious reasons, if your GF denies you to do it, you’ll get frustrated, nervous, and the kid will suffer from it.
Now don’t use it as an excuse, it’s all about compromises for BOTH sides, if she doesn’t want to compromise, go away and don’t look back because she will make you miserable and your kid along with you.
But you also have to compromise, I know when my wife wants to watch TV or so (I don’t watch TV, ever) I go outside on the parking lot to practice, or in another room so I don’t bother her.
all in all, talk with her
and please, please, you can give a yoyo to your son, but if he doesn’t like it, leave him alone, he will not be good at anything if he doesn’t enjoy it.
Q: I agree with purely negative comments, but this issue goes way beyond someone disliking a yoyo and while it seems like nothing now, it’s the typical situation that, with years, can cause real and big problems if not dealt with properly and as soon as possible.
again, relationship counselling should do the trick, you guys need to talk about this issue and everything related, get all the help you can because at 19yo, most kids lack experience and do silly mistakes, get some help and don’t be ashamed of taking decisions to improve your life.
Kid comes first