Update: So me and my bully r actually getting along rn. We hang out with each other and just are pretty chill now. But now theres a big problem with the entire grade for the boys. My grade is a small grade since I go to a private school, so there only 2 classes, which leaves around 30ish boys. There is this kid that we used to like, and now he kinda screwed up. Hes the person that hangs out with the girls more often than the boys, so it gives him opportunities to get into gossip about us boys (u know what im talking about, crush’s, beef, etc). And recently he was telling one of the girls something about the boys, the boys got mad at the girl and tried to deny it, then they pointed towards jake. And now jake is really good at beefing. If u make him mad, he WILL, talk back towards u and expose u in front of the entire grade. Academically, things to get u in trouble, crush’s, etc. This happened to me once, and lemme tell u, it’s not fun. So I just wanna try to get him to stop, but I don’t know how.
I mean, he wanted to become cool with me since I got him to stop, and he realized, what he was doing
Its been like this for a good amount of time
Sure, im down
My take is simple. Without being you its hard to say if its right or wrong, but its my 2 cents.
Its a good thing to get over your lumps with the “bully.” No youngin is ever truly bad or anything. You never know, maybe in the end y’all end up being really good friends.
Be careful not to become the bully. Just because your buddy is a gossip doesnt make him an outsider lol. If you dont want the girls or people in general to know something, then dont tell other people yourself. People in general always gossip so if you dont want anyone in your business then you are the first and only line of defense. Dont blame the boy for telling, its your fault first, that does not change even as an adult lol.
Also, dude trust me its never bad to be the guy that hangs out with the girls lol. In the end you will want to hang out with the girls!! Also if you got a crush on someone dont be afraid of it, show it to the girl and maybe she will like you back. Most relationships at the school level dont last forever, so if you end up embarrassing yourself or with a broken heart dont fret, thats just part of growing up. That goes for you and your fellow boys lol. Your buddy might be on to something although he might get himself friend zoned by most if the girls he hangs out with regularly lol.
Now the hardest part, and here is the advice. Dont change who you are just to get along with x or y person. Thats the tricky part. Never easy, but always stay true to yourself.