@Scoogy has the situation gotten any better? Have you tried any of the suggestions that the community has laid out?
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Yeah I told my assistant principle. It’s getting better and he got suspended for being a dummy, so I don’t have to deal with him for a while
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Was the suspension related to your situation or something else? Glad it’s getting a little better
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Not really, but its part of it. Hes been really rude and disturbing during class and swore a bunch in front of the teacher. His group also picked up all my stuff during homeroom and moved it to the girls’ side. My classmate also sprinkled a bunch of salt and pepper onto my food and now we have beef. Everyone wants to start beef with me just because they think its funny and they think they’re cool. Like i was just playing soccer, and one of the kids was being super dirty, and he was being a jerk and saying stuff like “yeah marco u see that? I litterly crossed u up bro like”, and i told him to shut up, but it didnt work. This is like the only place where I get to tell people about how much my day sucked, and how much people. Forget about me. And sometimes its not that people do stuff to make me mad or annoyed, its that they dont do anything to interact with me. Like, today i had my stem fair project, and me and my classmates were talking about how it went. I said that it was one of the longest direct conversations i had, and then one of them said “Bro, i talked to reece like for an hour straight”. I told him about my situation and he felt pretty bad for me, which made me feel a bit better knowing that people care and know about me. It sucks, sure, but at least its not anything major anymore
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Update: So me and my bully r actually getting along rn. We hang out with each other and just are pretty chill now. But now theres a big problem with the entire grade for the boys. My grade is a small grade since I go to a private school, so there only 2 classes, which leaves around 30ish boys. There is this kid that we used to like, and now he kinda screwed up. Hes the person that hangs out with the girls more often than the boys, so it gives him opportunities to get into gossip about us boys (u know what im talking about, crush’s, beef, etc). And recently he was telling one of the girls something about the boys, the boys got mad at the girl and tried to deny it, then they pointed towards jake. And now jake is really good at beefing. If u make him mad, he WILL, talk back towards u and expose u in front of the entire grade. Academically, things to get u in trouble, crush’s, etc. This happened to me once, and lemme tell u, it’s not fun. So I just wanna try to get him to stop, but I don’t know how.
Word of advice, never EVER become “cool” with your bully. It won’t end well
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In my experience at least
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I mean, he wanted to become cool with me since I got him to stop, and he realized, what he was doing
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Its been like this for a good amount of time
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Permission to dive into an anecdote?
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Sure, im down
My take is simple. Without being you its hard to say if its right or wrong, but its my 2 cents.
Its a good thing to get over your lumps with the “bully.” No youngin is ever truly bad or anything. You never know, maybe in the end y’all end up being really good friends.
Be careful not to become the bully. Just because your buddy is a gossip doesnt make him an outsider lol. If you dont want the girls or people in general to know something, then dont tell other people yourself. People in general always gossip so if you dont want anyone in your business then you are the first and only line of defense. Dont blame the boy for telling, its your fault first, that does not change even as an adult lol.
Also, dude trust me its never bad to be the guy that hangs out with the girls lol. In the end you will want to hang out with the girls!! Also if you got a crush on someone dont be afraid of it, show it to the girl and maybe she will like you back. Most relationships at the school level dont last forever, so if you end up embarrassing yourself or with a broken heart dont fret, thats just part of growing up. That goes for you and your fellow boys lol. Your buddy might be on to something although he might get himself friend zoned by most if the girls he hangs out with regularly lol.
Now the hardest part, and here is the advice. Dont change who you are just to get along with x or y person. Thats the tricky part. Never easy, but always stay true to yourself.
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So back in 5-6 grade I was friends with this kid we’ll call James. James had been my best (and only) friend since the 1st grade. He was all I had, and so I always just thought he was a good person. Fast forward to early 7th grade, He would yell at me, call me slurs, spread awful rumors about me (on the bus he told my gf that I was faking being trans and that I broke his nose, which now that I think about it, I did accidentally punch him in the face but I don’t think anything came of it) and every time he would just laugh it off and change the subject. At some point, he stopped eating lunch with me in favor of sitting with the royals (popular kids) I don’t know if it had to do with anything, but this was around the same time I came out, and he had always been kinda questionable on the topic. For example, one time someone clowned on me loudly in the middle of the hallway for being trans, and when I talked to him about it, he asked why I didn’t simply decide to be cis (normal). Also, another reason he was sitting with the royals was because there was this girl we’ll call Jenny, who was openly lesbian (and had a gf) who James had a massive crush on. When I asked if he knew she was gay, he responded, dead-seriously, “yeah, but if your attractive enough it doesn’t matter” like I don’t know if he was just uneducated or just stupid. Anyway once I realized he was bad, I cut him out of my life entirely, yet he still continued talking crap about me to my new friends and berate me whenever he felt fit. Eventually, I got sick of it and told everyone I knew how he had treated me, and his social status plummeted, and when he caught wind of it, he texted me (for the first time in a year) asking me why I said that and that he would beat me up. I blocked his number, and he ignored me like the coward he was. TLDR: don’t become friends with jerks.