Yup, I remember that frustration. The formation I was landing in after the first pop was all wrong, which was setting me up for a failed second pop every time as well. I eventually had to slow videos down to like 1/20th speed and stare at the screen over and over and figure out where every single finger and every single string segment was.
Then when I started landing in the cross-arms formation correctly, I knew I was close. All the slo-mo video watching allowed me to see where my thumb was supposed to be going for spreading the triangle during the second pop’s landing.
I know you’re just humorously asking for commiseration and not pointers… but maybe this will help: