I know what you mean. I have one of those cousins on my dads side of the family. My dads sister and her family have always tried to put us down because we live in the US(my whole family is from Mexico). I just learned to live with it. On my moms side of the family Im one of 2 boys, only have another boy in the family. Since his dad doesnt really frequent the rest of the family I was the one who grew up with my uncles and grandpa. When I was around 10 the started taking me to work so I could " learn to be a man". Im almost 17 now and now know how to do most tasks on a work site. My other cousin alwas got spoiled because hes a couple of years younger, but I am MUCH happier with having learned how push a wheel barrow and shovel gravel than to have been pampered. I was jealous sometimes, since he got it easy and never had to go to work, but I know now at least I can work. Now when something big has to be done around that a few guys are needed I get paid because I know how to do anything we have to do and I have to teach my cousin. Being the “other” kid can soon have its perks
Show him up. Or express your feeling to your parents and your cousin… I’m pretty sure he isn’t trying to frustrate you off… A bunch of kids at by school got into yoyoing after me, and one kid got a spyy revenger as his first yoyo, and another a phenom… I was frustrated, cause my yoyo at their level was a Duncan avenger, but I eventually just accepted it and assured my place as yoyo king/teacher… Until when I was sick and at school my pupils rebelled and performed for the school and was crowned the yoyo kings. Then I was MAD. cough cough mcsquare4817
But then I went on the stage the next week and showed them up… And at the talent show…
I mean i feel pretty ticked off for you right now but just like every one has been saying, just shrug it off and don’t let it bother you. And this could be a way to get the rest of the family to notice you too. I mean if they’re giving all tje attention to him and then they see him yoyoing right by you don’t you think that they’ll realize that you’re better and congragulate you too? And lastly I think you might be over reacting a bit. I mean if your cousin is the way he sounds and just dridts from one thing to the next, then I can see why people would be focusing on encouraging him at the same time. Cause then maybe through encouragement he’ll find the right hobby he enjoys whether it’s yoyoing ir not.
I know that feeling. But just remember, if you’re a real yoyoer, you would want to be spreading the sport. I love seeing my friends and family get good at yoyoing. If he started yoyoing after seeing you, it just means he looks up to you and likes the sport. If he grows up to be spoiled, then that’s just his problem, it won’t affect you in the slightest way. Jealousy is only a sign of weakness.
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This reminds me of something last year. My brother went with me to the BAC when I helped him get a SPYY yoyo. He knows how to bind but doesn’t have a whole lot of tricks under his belt yet. We were messing with the Boingy Boing trick as much as I sucked at it. I explained to my brother how to get into the mount and how you’re supposed to keep a rhythm. Not even a half hour into it and he already had a few boings down. Later that evening when we were home, he pretty much mastered it. I on the other hand couldn’t get a single boing in. Sure it got me a little flustered that someone who can barely do Eiffel Tower got an advanced trick down before me but a couple months down the road (or later that summer) I finally started getting 2 boings in, then 3, then indefinitely…came quite fast once I got that first one down.
Moral of the story: some people are going to progress fast, some slow. Yoyoing isn’t a race, and to me it isn’t all about ‘x player’s better than y player’ but more of just throwing, having fun and learning new stuff & being creative.
Another random note to throw in: on our arrival to the BAC last year, my brother spots these middle school kids pulling off advanced combos. My brother looks at me and says “Wow, dude, you’re about to get blown out of the water by these kids!” My response was “So, could care less, not here to prove a point, but just to have fun and learn some stuff.” In the end, a bystander at the event was recording me and ‘interviewing me’ as I was doing my thing…nevermind the rest of the ‘more advanced’ players standing by also doing tricks.
It’s a compliment. What you were doing inspired him to pick it up because he admires what you can do. It might be annoying if you feel like this cousin gets a lot of credit for things he doesn’t deserve, but in this instance, just about the only way to see it is that he started so he could get the accolades that you already did. I’d actually see that as a validation of my effort.
He obviously thought it was cool, and wanted to try it, thats a great thing, and you helped spread yoyoing. So what if he becomes the next world champ, you can say that you inspired him. Maybe try you could try to reach out to him and share tricks or something. Try not to be jealous of the yoyos, there are always people with more toys.
Way to be mean! I wish there was a dislike button for posts like this, that do no one good, and that was kinda selfish… I asked you if I could yoyo with you for the talent show and you rejected me. Who said we rebelled, we were just showing the school that there were other good yoyoers. You “Showed them up”? What is that supposed to mean? Nothing changed. In fact, you are just jealous of how we are gaining on you, afraid of losing the position of best yoyoer in the school, yet some kid that I am better than beat you in a yoyo-off in front of the whole grade!
Try not to turn this into a rant. If you’re actually a good yoyoer, you won’t need an expensive, metal yoyo.
In my experience everyone that has everything handed to them, fail to learn appreciation for anything and often follow through on very little. My guess is that he will be the center of attention with his yoyoing for a very short time then something else will come along and they will dump some cash on new toys. Remember, this is more than just about him, it is often about a parenting style. If you are working for your yoyos and waiting to recieve them as gifts and are throwing even when people aren’t watching and giving you attention, then yoyoing is really something special to you. To him probably just a momentary distraction.
Just keep being respectful of others and pursuing what you love. Believe it or not now, I really think you are in the better position.
My in-laws represent the kind of people who have had everything handed to them, failed to learn appreciation for anything and then follow through on very little. Through internal greed, the family has torn itself apart and is placing blame on anywhere but themselves.
My sister is also one of those kinds of people as well.
There’s many ways to deal with it. My thoughts are still the same in regards to this topic. A “new person was brought into the yoyo community”. As such, that’s good for yoyo in general. Also, jealousy is a wasted emotion.
Teach your cousin. You’ll improve your own skills through teaching others, as well as have someone to throw with. You can challenge each other to mutually improve(in time). The odds are that your cousin will tire of this when he realizes this will involve some actual work and effort, but then again, maybe he won’t.
I’m not sure where the real root of the anger comes from. Every family has one member that is typically useless and they pour on the accolades, but once they hit adulthood and prove themselves to be worthless and useless because their minor accomplishments were celebrated, they fail to understand they aren’t equipped to handle the ugly real world. Yeah, they started from nothing and ended up with a really nice “starter set”. Who cares!
Be the bigger man. Think about what you can do to HELP this person, while at the same time helping yourself through mutually beneficial activities. Only time will tell where this will lead. Remain positive. I spent YEARS being negative, but working in aggressive environments where finding faults and flaws in your competition and then exploiting that for “fun, profit and corporate advancement” sucks and it’s taken me a LONG time to get out of that mindset and I don’t intend to backpedal unless I have to.
There’s a massive opportunity to do a lot of good here, Or a lot of bad here. Which do you choose? Choose good.