when I say “violence” I mean “forcing you to do or not to do something against your will”
I’m not saying you have bad parents, I have nothing to back it up if I would.
just that we all make poor decisions and making a poor one over one of these is not going to help
maybe you were playing too much and your grades went down, but taking the toy away from you is not the solution, this is the “easy way”. As the kid, you are not supposed to know anything your parents don’t teach you, and if they didn’t teach you not to measure your play time, they should rather get to it than punishing you for it.
if my kid does something wrong, I take it on me, because I didn’t teach him beforehand, it does happen
and in that case there are always two options (or more), either blame the kid or blame myself. It’s not the kid’s fault if he didn’t know something I was supposed to teach him.
We all make mistakes, we all do, the important part is not to avoid making mistakes, rather to learn from them and then not make them twice.
You make mistakes, but your parents also, everyone does and here, I think it’s a mistake from their part, maybe started by a mistake from yours, but they’re the responsible ones here.
Sometimes I make mistakes as a parent too, and if I do, I apologize rather than blame the kid, yes I sometimes do apologize to my kid, and this is why I believe he respects me.
Violence doesn’t have to mean a punch in the face, a punishment is a violent answer. You don’t teach anything to anyone with violence, violence don’t solve problems they only make them worse.
Be true to yourself, if you realize maybe you’ve put yoyoing before school, acknowledge it and apologize, if you think you didn’t, maybe you got bad grades for other reasons, i don’t know what’s happening over there, just making assumptions, but it’s important to be true and honest to yourself first, and if you feel they were right to think that yoyoing was getting in the way of your school results, acknowledge it, learn from your mistakes.
you can’t expect your parents or anyone else to behave in some way or another, people are just people and our parents are no different. The thing you can do is about your own self, and this is being true and honest towards your own self, you know, inside, if you did anything wrong or not.
And sometimes also, know that life ain’t fair, and truly, we’re not that bad. there are kids your age who spend their youth shooting at people or starving to death, others who get raped by their father and the list goes on, at least you know that your parents love you enough to care, even if they can be wrong at times and take the wrong decisions, have poor judgment etc… they do care enough.
there are some things you can only understand once you’re a parent, so give em the benefit of the doubt, but again, be true to yourself and if you think they’re wrong, discuss it with them and explain to them why (in a calm manner, build your argumentation beforehand, sometimes it helps to write).
but all in all, I think that what they did was wrong, maybe for the right reasons, but again, violence doesn’t solve anything, ever.