On “becoming an adult and moving on”

I think I was reacting to this line mostly:

That’s one way to set your BST post apart from the crowd :joy:

But seriously, I wish you the best on your musical journey! I play a bunch of instruments myself but recently favor the uke, and I try to keep it pretty chill.

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Something being a waste of time or not is right or wrong completely dependant on who is saying it is or isn’t… Time is the most valuable currency, we spend it how we see fit, and there is no right or wrong way to do it, because your time is yours, nobody else’s.

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Thanks everyone for all your concerns and opinions and experiences, I’ve read and considered every post on this thread up til this one, and a lot of it has adjusted my perspective a bit, which I really appreciate!

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Growing up is a racket. I’m old, my hands hurt, my joints ache, my eyes suck, I don’t control my body anymore. I jumped over a small wall the other day and it felt like my organs shifted 10 feet. I need SOMETHING to distract me from my failing body. Music and yo-yos do the trick. But I understand. I had to sell off a ton of my collection here recently to create a nest for coming car and medical bills. That’s adulting I guess. Balancing. Sadly I’m also bad at balancing these days but life is short and so am I.

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This here is the biggest personal trap you can fall into. Do what you feel is right but I will warn you diving all in nothing else into one anything will lead to depression, burnout and overall lack of satisfaction. Creative block and lack of motivation. I personally love technology it was my passion. I jumped head first when I was young all in nothing else and at this point I hate it. It’s a job and I would rather go live on a deserted island than look at a computer. It’s what I built my life around so yoyo and other hobbies act as an escape. If I didn’t have those and I didn’t for a period I would be extremely depressed.

Like I said do whatever you want and think is right but the mentality that all your gonna do is one thing and nothing else is a dangerous notion that can lead down a sad dark path. Life is moderation and becoming a full “grown” adult is learning to balance responsibilities, passions and desires.

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We must be twins… :wink:

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Adding to your topic if I can as I am a musician as well (degree in classical guitar) and as you said a behaviour like that is literally the way to a proper burnout, rsi injuries and similar stuff.
Sorry for the wall of text but I think this time is needed as I am seeing the beginning of a behaviour that I know really well.

The advice 2 hours of practice a day for serious players (with breaks in between) are there for a reason, you can arrive at 4 if you have all day free or you are a student, is useless to study for 8 hours a day as it lead only to quit the instrument and similar.

I tried to be a music and nothing else person and was useless, made me unhappy and alone and I was losing so many nice things. I used to yoyo in the night after dinner every day alone in my room, now that I gave much more time to yoyo (and yoyo is an example), I discovered friends, places, people all over the world and another fun thing to do, yoyoing help music and music help yoyoing.

Keep both things and maybe you can dedicate a bit more time to music will help the musician also because the brain need time to rest and process what you have studied.

Have another hobby save you in case of troubles and I say this with all my heart.

And I bold this for a reason:

I got secondary task focal dystonia cause I practiced way too much and I was really obsessed by the instrument, it didn’t matter how good I was and how many exams I passed with the maximum grade, I wanted more and more and now (and this is the most cruel joke of my destiny) I can’t even play guitar anymore, I have to see doctors frequently, I lived one years of total nightmare between injections, splint and other stuff and luckily I catch it at the beginning so doesn’t affect my real life, playing yoyo and other stuff, but the guitar is gone and forgotten and this is the saddest thing that happened to me.
I seen people not even able to grab a pen anymore, many more fall in a dark depression cause had nothing else to do after a life of only playing, another hobby saved my life from a tunnel where I was going into, please be careful and this is for music, yoyo and every other passion you have!

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I, too an in the process of moving on.

When I turned 65 (7 years ago) I knew it was just a matter of time before I would have to grow up and do something useful.

My main 2 hobbies for the last half century are eating apples and oranges. I’ve pretty much dedicated my life mastering slicing apples into 8 equal wedges and peeling oranges in 17 different ways.

Now that I am 72, I have finally decided I only have time for one hobby or the other.

It was a seriously tough choice, but since I know I could not continue to live without eating Apple pie, I decided to go Apples only for what time I have left.

So, from today forward, I am All in for Apples Only. No more Oranges and no more yo-yos, period.

I have decided to faze out my yo-yo playing with the best detox method I could think of.

I am going to play each of my yo-yos for one week straight. As each week passes, I will play another yo-yo for 1 week and so on and so on…

The Orange eating will stop immediately, but the yo-yo playing will be gradual.

I figure since I have 1600 yo-yos…… playing each one for a full week, it will take approximately 30 years and 9 months to fade out.

That will make me about 102 years old.

When I decide to make things happen, I just move on with a Quickness.

No regrets.

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Really interesting topic, and one I’m keen to share my thoughts and experiences on.

I started throwing properly when I was around 29. I was always interested in throwing but always felt as an adult I should be doing adults things – I yoyo’d as a kid with my pro yo and omega, but never got good as you’d say. I currently work in the Financial Services sector, so most people I work with are quite middle class and have what I deem ‘grown up’ hobbies. Eventually I got to a stage in my life where I realised, I should just do the things I enjoy and want to do… this was in part driven by seeing my parents get older and losing a lot of their mobility and thus the ability to do the things they enjoy.

For the first couple of years I never told anyone I yoyo’d (fear of embarrassment, an adult using a kids toy). But again, as time ticked on I stopped caring. If my peers didn’t like me for my hobbies, then are they really people I want to associate me. It took me a short while before I ever shared a video of me throwing on social media, and if anything, I was surprised by the positive reaction. I guess people weren’t used to seeing a hobby they probably dabbled in as a child being taken to a more serious level.

Coming to the other point, adulthood has really put a time crunch on my social time. Work, domestic chores, a wife, and pets, all eat into the ability for me to switch off to focus on throwing. However, my biggest issue, I have too many hobbies which I skirt in-between. Rather than spending 5-8 hours a week throwing, it gets split across gaming, tennis, balisong, kendama, flying drones, etc. It’s made me realise that I will never grow quickly in any of these hobbies, but likewise, I don’t have the attention span to just focus on one. I’ve debated with myself whether I should reduce my interests so I can spend more time throwing, but I’m adamant I have ADD and would struggle just focusing on one hobby and burn myself out.

Where I’ve got to is trying not to stress everything. Being in my mid-30s, I’ve quickly realised I should just do what I enjoy. I’ve very jealous of those who can focus on one hobby and get fantastic at it (makes me jealous I didn’t start throwing in university when I had too much free time to hand). However, I’ve also realised I’m sketchy when sticking to hobbies, and often regret selling things I was interested in years ago (e.g. DJ equipment).

Well ramble over, but great thread as it’s got me really thinking about my own views on my hobbies (especially with kids on the horizon in maybe the next 2-3 years).

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I honestly wish you all the luck in reaching your goal of ending yo-yoing by 102 years old. Personally i would be cool with 95 but to each there own.

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Why ever dump something that once brought you joy. One day, maybe years later, it will bring you joy again.

I understand getting rid of a good portion of a large collection but I don’t understand someone saying “I’m done”. Hold on to just 1 if anything.

To the OP, you made a wise decision to hold onto a few. You WILL need a break from music. Maybe it’s only a 15 min break but let your mind go somewhere else. It will ultimately help with the creative journey.

Good luck to you!!

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When you’re 103, you let me know and I will gladly give you a bunch of apples for that banshee :rofl:

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