ok. personal messages. I have sent some, i think, but i dont know if they actually sent. would it go in the outbox, or is the outbox something completely different?

A copy will go to the outbox if you tell it to. You should be able to check/uncheck a box where it says something like “Send a copy to my outbox”

oh ok! i was worried at first it didnt send, but then if i sent it again, i mightve sent it twice. but now i know i sent it! ;D