# WHY???

**URL:** <https://forums.yoyoexpert.com/t/why/7391>\
**Category:** General Yo-Yo\
**Created:** [October 12, 2009, 8:56pm UTC](https://forums.yoyoexpert.com/t/why/7391 "2009-10-12T20:56:06Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 3\
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**Author:** ![Samad](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex015/user_avatar/forums.yoyoexpert.com/samad/32/19_2.png) [@Samad](https://forums.yoyoexpert.com/u/Samad)\
**Post date:** [October 13, 2009, 10:15pm UTC](https://forums.yoyoexpert.com/t/why/7391/21 "2009-10-13T22:15:35Z")

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> [@PHAZZE](#):
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> Ummm… Ok I know a world more of information from the critical people here on the forums like Samad. ( no offense) look at him now he is a forum eXpert and yoyoing ninja!!! Would you take them seriously if they don’t use “tough love” to get you going? I find myself being more and more critical because it has helped ne in the past… If a post really makes you uncomfortable contact one of the sites administrators…

Not really. When I began forum eXpert, I was way nicer, way back then. 😛

Good times… but I love the here and now as well 🙂

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**Author:** ![Phazon\_enhanced\_yoyo](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex015/user_avatar/forums.yoyoexpert.com/phazon_enhanced_yoyo/32/293_2.png) [@Phazon\_enhanced\_yoyo](https://forums.yoyoexpert.com/u/Phazon_enhanced_yoyo)\
**Post date:** [October 13, 2009, 10:30pm UTC](https://forums.yoyoexpert.com/t/why/7391/22 "2009-10-13T22:30:16Z")

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> [@Samad](#):
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> > [@PHAZZE](#):
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> > Ummm… Ok I know a world more of information from the critical people here on the forums like Samad. ( no offense) look at him now he is a forum eXpert and yoyoing ninja!!! Would you take them seriously if they don’t use “tough love” to get you going? I find myself being more and more critical because it has helped ne in the past… If a post really makes you uncomfortable contact one of the sites administrators…
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> Not really. When I began forum eXpert, I was way nicer, way back then. 😛
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> Good times… but I love the here and now as well 🙂

would you say you were more or less helpful then or now?

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**Author:** ![Xdohl](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex015/user_avatar/forums.yoyoexpert.com/xdohl/32/12_2.png) [@Xdohl](https://forums.yoyoexpert.com/u/Xdohl)\
**Post date:** [October 13, 2009, 10:43pm UTC](https://forums.yoyoexpert.com/t/why/7391/23 "2009-10-13T22:43:34Z")

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There’s something to be said here, not about this forum, just about life.

It’s all about how you say, not what you say.

If you suck, flat-out, genuinely, suck at something, and I go to you and say “You suck,” then that won’t make you any better, it’ll just get you down, and you’ll be discouraged.

If you suck, and I say to you, “Hey man, good try, I got a few ideas to make you better at it for next time (ideas go here)” then the person gets a few things:

1. Somebody cares. That’s a big deal, actually.
2. You can improve.
3. You have a reason to continue; to work on the skills or whatever that this mentor has given you.

You still suck either way. But the second way, you suck for a reason, and you’re going to stop sucking pretty darn quick.

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